Usenet Newsgroups Re: Has anyone in this group used a prenup and was it helpful? Anyone used Nolo to draft it? From: phelbooth@gmail.com (phelbooth) On Jul 14, 1:05 pm, LarryG <larryg...@yahoo.com> wrote: On Jul 11, 4:33 pm, ClaraL <cl...@flamingchipcasinos.com> wrote: Hello, Had anyone in this group had setup and used a prenup and was it any helpful? I'm thinking of creating a prenup for my second marriage to avoid costly mistakes from my first one, and I am looking into Nolo Press to produce a first draft. Has anyone do that before and was that helpful or did the lawyers just tossed the prep work away? If you know any better group to post this question, please feel free to suggest it, Thank you in advance Clara Personally, I think you should get divorced before you get married. A Pre-Nup does a number of important things: 1. It lets each prospective mate see exactly how "generous" and reasonable the other is likely to be, while they are even on good terms with one another. 2. Each party knows exactly what they stand to gain or lose should they consider misconduct or divorce. 3. It should allow seperation without the animosity and quarrelling about who gets what, which generally degenerates into petty spitefulness. Just be sure that both sides have equal say in the pre-nup terms. Good luck, Larry G. I had a pre-nup and while ideally it was established to protect each of our separate assets (we both have adult children) at death, we did end up divorcing. Larry's #3 above would be the ideal case--my spouse contested the pre- nup with great vigor (right down to asking to be reimbursed for planting arbor vitae in the yard--I owned the house prior to marriage)--thereby taking what could have been an inexpensive and quick divorce into months of stupidity and legal expense. Anyway, the pre-nup did hold up--when they are correctly crafted they almost always do--I recommend using a good estate lawyer rather than doing it on your own. Won't cost more than $500 and it will hold up in court--unless either of you lie when drafting the prenup. Look up something called "The Button Case" or "Button Test" or something like that--it's a legal precedent that shows the three-prong test that validates the effectiveness of the prenup. Fill Subject  Has anyone in this group used a prenup and was it  Re: Has anyone in this group used a prenup and was it  Re: Has anyone in this group used a prenup and was it  Re: Has anyone in this group used a prenup and was it